I guess everybody had an experience in his or her life when parents or relatives try to poach on their preserves. Psychologists say that gross interference is highly undesirable, especially in the life of teenagers. Professionals admit that the constant change of amorousness is necessary for the age of 13-16. At this age boys and girls gain a priceless experience of building the interpersonal relations, they form their behavioral pattern, the so-called “taste” for the certain members of the opposite sex, the skill of making friends and maintain relations. The teenagers gain the experience for the time when serious feelings will come
In connection with this (in my subjective opinion) it is not right when parents try to set a limit for communication with the opposite sex for their children explaining this by the great care (“it is not the time for him/her”, “let’s study better and don’t be distracted by trifles” and etc.) These very actions can lead to the result that a teenager can be a woman-hater or a man-hater in his adult life or vice versa can become promiscuous because he or she didn’t learn how to puzzle out in people.
It doesn’t mean that parents should leave their children on their own and give them an absolute freedom to do what they want. BUT parents very often forget that they were at the same place and that they had the same problems. Sometimes they try to overprotect their children from relationship because they had some unsuccessful experience at that age. They try to read emails, Smses, pry in all what children do but in most cases they enjoy a negative reaction and confrontation on the part of their “olive branches” and this reaction could be more harmful in the future. This teenage age can affect all the following life of a child because it is a sensitive period. Most problems of adults have their roots in this age.
If we take Islam their conception of bringing up children is based on 7 points. They are religious, moral, physical, intellectual, psychological, social and sex education. Sex education means that a child should be educated in the questions of dealing with an opposite sex. According to Koran parents may talk with their children about these questions honestly. The purpose of sex education there is first of all physical and moral health of children and of course enlightenment about forbidden and allowable in this sphere of human life.
I can admit that the experience of Moslem countries shows that their concept is effective and wholesome. To begin with, the rate of divorces is very low in these countries though Islam allows a possibility of divorce. It is not because women are enslaved by their husbands and have no rights but because both of them, women and men, are taught from childhood how to be on good terms with their wives and husbands, to respect their halves, what to expect from the opposite sex and they have no illusions about married life. Secondly, Moslem countries have an increase in population when most native European population is decreasing nowadays.
The purpose of this article is not to show the readers the advantages or disadvantages of religions, but to show that people should not close themselves to discussing these seemingly confusing subjects. In my opinion children are children for a while but when they grow up they should be prepared for every aspect of human life. It is life and it is essential.
The final Curios © phrase:
“You are only young once… but you can be immature your whole life”
(Unknown)
